Some of us are perfectly fine and just would like to hear from you, but some of us are really not ok. And that’s ok!

As a momma, have you ever just had a new baby and I felt on could nine? Like nothing could tear you down! I’ve been there. The amazing feeling of having a new person to love in and nurture. It’s like no other. Even when you’re on the top of the world, these mommas still need to be checked on. I mean just being cooped up at home for several weeks can still take a toll on you. Next level boredom kicks in sometimes.

And on the other hand, have you ever been the momma who has a beautiful, healthy newborn baby and felt so much pain inside? Like your emotions are on high. You have feelings that you can’t explain. Feelings that you can physically tell yourself are silly and that you shouldn’t feel them, but you just can’t get past that mental block. Whether it’s guilt, image issues, separation, etc. it’s definitely not something to ignore. I honestly never imagined experiencing any down feelings. I have the most beautiful girl in the entire world, but the mental things I’m feeling right now can truly tear you down. Sadly not all outsiders understand why you’d feel that way. When you try to explain it it’s hard. I know truly how lucky I am and I love her with everything I have. For me, the feelings I have aren’t making me have separation from the baby at all. They are feelings that are making me have a separation with myself. It’s also super easy to put on a front to others so they don’t see the pain from the outside because “you’re supposed to be strong”.

People don’t always ask how you’re doing or check on you as a momma. Most people check on the baby. Check on new mommas that you know. If you truly care about her, this is the biggest help you can offer her. I promise it will mean a lot to her. You never know when checking on someone will open your the door for them to talk to someone about how they are feeling.

A close friend once told me, Postpartum Depression is real and it doesn’t discriminate. That was the realest thing anyone has told me lately. It was truly something I needed to hear. I can also say after obtaining my PhD from Google University, if you feel like you are suffering from Postpartum Depression, please speak with your health care provider. Just because you’re post baby, doesn’t mean they stop caring for you. Don’t let it linger on.